Be smarter than I was! Why did I need an accident to discover the real value of life?
Don’t you, like me, also every year have to face the mirror of the value of life every year? Family members, close friends or acquaintances who got incurably illness, got an accident, a stroke or heart attack, and - despite all their dreams - suddenly passed away?
In a hurry we run to the funeral or cremation ceremony to show respect and, after a very brief look in that mirror that showed us again the value of life, we run our life again the same old way. Nothing learned. What about respecting ourselves?
In the period of my recovery, a period that I am actually still in, I discovered that health is a very suitable goal to pursue in my life. And not just health but the holistic approach of health. On this website you will find much more about this. Health is your biggest asset.
A good or better holistic health means an adaptation of your lifestyle. And for that you do not have to exaggerate your efforts or overdoing by suddenly start running or going to a fitness center. It must be a step by step (Kaizen) process that you enjoy and look forward to.
You eat healthier, are more conscious of physical activity, pay more attention to your private-work balance, take time for yourself, etc .. This also means that you will feel better, live longer, be happier and make better decisions for yourself and your family.
Simplifying your life is a big step forward
There are many messages in our society, the marketing industry on top, that tell us, even when we're young people, that there's something wrong with us and that if we just buy the right product, or look a certain way, or have the right partner, that will fix it. Take a random magazine in your hands and experience that about 60%, if not more, just tell you that you need something to be 'better', to become 'more beautiful' or 'happier'. Wake up! You are beautiful (and unique) the way you are. Being yourself, and therefore - be happy about this - differently from everyone else because that is your uniqueness, does not seem to be understood by your environment because there is no money to be made. And if you want to continue to strive for that 'accepted' uniformity, then go on working on that and pay your price.
The simpler your lifestyle and the less your demands on others, the less tense you are and the more you are open to others. You also have more time for yourself, your family and friends. One of the best ways to get a more peaceful mind is to simplify your needs and desires. Most of us are surrounded by things we never really need, we only keep them 'just in case'.
"Do away and enjoy"
Gandhi gave this as an answer when he was asked to summarize the message from the greatest sacred writings of India, the Bhagavad Gita. He called that short summary "Do away and enjoy" the secret of happiness.
From the beginning of the history of mankind, wise people in every culture continually discovered that true happiness can never be found in the constant desire for more.
There are more important things in life than just 'stuff'.
Everything is temporary.
Everything is only temporary. You actually do not own anything either. You only have items on loan for a while. Once again you will leave and give back everything.
And everything you have can be taken away from you. Do you really need all those things in your life? What is the most reliable in your life now?
Think back to the three most important moments of happiness so far in your life. You may discover that they occurred because you were receptive to the beauty of life, and not because you had possessions, power or success. Maybe your happiness is closer than you think!
If you build your life on trustworthy and sustainable things like love and friendship, they cannot be taken away by anyone or something.
I now know both sides of lifestyle and experience a simpler life as many more times richer. Henry David Thoreau describes it as:
"If you simplify your life, the laws of the universe are simpler;
loneliness is not loneliness,
poverty is not poverty and
weakness no weakness."